Friday, January 4, 2013

Marriage Tip #3: Compromise Creatively in Certain Areas

When we first got married, we heard a lot of of marriage advice.

The one that seemed to be tossed out a lot is "Compromise, compromise, compromise."

I personally don't think that's a good idea across the board, because if you compromise what's important to you or your values or anything that would make your marriage better, then I think you're going to end up with a crappy marriage.

We don't want a crappy marriage.

We want an awesome marriage.

One of our respectable engagement pictures

However, we have learned how to compromise in certain things--things that aren't deal breakers and/or red flags.

Like on New Year's Eve and New Year's Day.

My Zumba teacher, Teresa, was getting a Zumba party together for 11:00 pm on New Year's Eve and I really wanted to go and I wanted Lee to come with me.

But he refuses to dance in any sort of class. He'll bust a move at a concert, but his dancing is free and impromptu. None of this stay-on-beat-and-step stuff!

I was a little sad, but I knew it would be a losing battle. He even said, "I'll go to Zumba if you come skydiving with me."

Heck no! I am afraid of falling and skydiving is falling. No thanks.

But I really wanted to do something with him, so we could kiss at midnight. I asked him if he would go and hang out while I did Zumba, then at midnight we could kiss when it was the new year.

He agreed he could do that. Yes!

He then asked me if we could do something if he went to Zumba. Oh great, I thought, Please don't ask me to skydive!

But he asked me if I would go indoor skydiving at iFly in Ogden. It simulates skydiving by a wind tunnel.

Lee at iFly

Okay! I can totally do that! That's not falling!

So that's what we did and we had a great New Year's Eve and a great New Year's Day.

Lee hung out while I danced the last hour of the year away and we kissed at midnight! Our teacher even had noise makers and some sparkling apple cider to toast in the new year.

And as promised, we headed up to Ogden to iFly! It made me nervous, but gosh, it was sure fun when I actually did it!

Looking down into the wind tunnel fan. There is a grate that will prevent you from falling down there!

It's really windy in there! Lee was so good at it--he'd be a natural at skydiving!

Can you see his goggle marks?

The kid in the wind tunnel is totally freaking out and flopping around!

So get creative. You don't have to do everything your spouse wants to do, but you can compromise and find a way to support each other!

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